Marital Change Is Inevitable

Have you ever found yourself worrying about the future of your marriage because you and your spouse were growing apart?  I think everyone has this fear at some point in there marriage but I don’t think too many make an effort to understand why this has happened.  Maybe you and your spouse aren’t talking enough or it feels as if you are becoming two very different people to continue being a couple.  Unfortunately, this is where many people give up on their marriage because they think it’s “unfixable.”

Christians who find themselves in this situation have to take a step back and trust that God is in control.  Far too many marriages end because people simply think change is bad. Remember, even though you might be surprised by your new circumstances, God isn’t. The Christian walk, after all, is all about growth and change.

Change is uncomfortable. It can leave us butting heads, feeling insecure, and scrambling to find reasons to believe that our marriage can’t survive. But, in God, we can find perfect peace in the midst of any circumstance.  Christ tells us in Luke 9:22, “You must take up your cross daily and follow me.” This means our surroundings are going to be constantly changing!

Marriage is very similar. There are going to be times in our marriages where we notice change in ourselves and our spouse.  When we notice these changes, they are going to require us to “take up our cross daily”, do not lose your joy or let it turn us upside down.  We can be certain that we are walking towards something spectacular when we depend on Jesus to lead the way.

The Devil would love for you to believe that this is it for your marriage. He would love to have you think that things will never get better. That’s when we have to remember that God already told us the Devil is a liar.  John 8:44 says “He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. Whenever he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own nature; for he is a liar, and the father of lies.”  Not only does God tell us he is a liar. He tells us Satan is “the father of lies”. There is no truth in him at all, not even a little morsel.

God has a perfect plan for your life and your marriage. You were created with purpose and joined together with reason. God honors who you are as an individual, and He also honors your spouse as one . . . but together He saw that you could be MORE. He placed you together with a purpose. Even when it feels like you are growing apart, if you’ll keep a steady ear on the one who joined you together, you’ll find that any growing you do can be done together.

Don’t wait until tomorrow…..Start serving your spouse today!

~Nick~

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