Is Your Romance Busted?
There are so many factors that simply drain the romance out of marriage. I just want to cover 3 of those factors and hopefully get your attention when it comes to romancing your spouse! Romance is an important feature in all relationships, especially marriages, and I hope this will at least get you thinking about finding a balance to preserve it!
The first of three factors is familiarity. It happens in all stages of life, for instance, you buy a new car and for a few weeks you create reasons just so you can drive. You’ll go to the store for no good reason and I know some of you crazies out there would even consider washing it on your lunch break. But after a while, without even realizing it, you begin treating it the way you treated your old one.
Other examples are when you buy a new house, a new piece of furniture, even a new shirt or some sort of article of clothing. For awhile you treat it so carefully until the new wears off, or familiarity sets in, then you quit protecting and worrying about it so carefully.
Unfortunately, we often treat people the same way we treat purchases like these. For instance, when you are dating someone and it’s a Friday night, you’re anxiously waiting their arrival, then before they get to your doorbell to ring it…you jerk the door open and tell them how glad you are to see them and how you’ve thought about them all day! Then you get married, and 2-3 years later when that same person you were all gitty to see back when you were dating comes home from work an hour late and let’s you know their home, and you say “so am I, you want a cookie?”
The second factor that can drain the romance right of marriage is a warped sense of security. When people begin dating, some struggle with the idea of being thoughtful and courteous all the time, they won’t win their partners heart and possibly lose them to someone else. But once they get married, it seems like the same person gets a little too complacent, perhaps a little too secure, and now their thoughtless, careless, and matter of fact about the relationship!
Physical Exhaustion is the last factor and I’m sure a lot of you can relate! You know when your much younger, maybe late teens or early twenties, and your out dating a great person too. You have all the time and energy for romance that your going out five nights a week, staying up til 2-3 a.m., and even get up early to watch the sunrise! BUT very few couples can keep this going into marriage because all that energy snowballed as the years went by and their responsibilities skyrocketed!
I want to encourage all of you to remember those times of romance that gave you REAL feelings of love that caused you to be selfless, a servant, outgoing, considerate, and gentle. Even if those times came when you and your spouse were dating, it’s never too late to capture that love back, and if you don’t believe me………..then go set up a date night! You know, like you did when you were younger, or a few years ago!
Proverbs 11:25 A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed
Proverbs 15:13 A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit
Proverbs 15:30 A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones
Proverbs 16:24 Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones
Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD
~Nick~
